University is a space for learning, expanding our experience of the world, and examining our own values, goals, and behaviours. Reflecting on how we behave and relate to others, especially intimate partners, is an important part of growing as a person. 

We all want to feel that we have good intentions and that these mean we cannot hurt others. However, we cannot possibly know how we impact other people and it’s important now to become curious about how we are received, where we are getting things right and wrong, and how we can improve our behaviour and communication.

It can be very difficult to recognise when our behaviour is hurting others, and seeking support for this can be daunting, but support is available, and engaging with yourself and what has happened can be hugely positive.

As a first step, we recommend contacting Wellbeing Services to speak with an Adviser in a non-judgmental space. 

If someone has told you that you have hurt them
  • Listen to them without interrupting. 
  • Take time and space away from them if you need to process what you’ve heard or are feeling angry or upset. 
  • If they need time and space away from you, accept this and do not put any pressure on them. 
  • Take responsibility for the hurt which they have described. 
  • Be led by them about what should happen next – be prepared that one or both of you may want to end your relationship.
  • Take actions to understand your behaviour, the impacts, and how to navigate future intimate relationships – there are resources here to help you. 

Consent Collective Resources

The University has partnered with The Consent Collective to provide a library of resources to students around sex, consent, and relationships. Many of these resources are helpful in starting to examine your own behaviour.

To access these and further materials click on this link to Consent Collective TV and select ‘Already have an account’. Login using your University of Bristol email and password.    

Support for you

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